The soul continuously calls its owner to transgression, preference of the world, the desires and love of the delights and pleasures. But Allâh calls His servant to fear of Him, awe of Him and forbids the soul from its whim. He has prepared a mighty reward for the one who follows His command. The Exalted said:
And as for the one fears the standing in front of His Lord and restrains the soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode. [Sûrah Nâzi‘ât 79:40-41]
The soul in its essence calls and commands the evil. Allâh the Exalted said:
Verily the (human) self is inclined to evil, except when my Lord bestows His Mercy (upon whomsoever He wills). Verily, my Lord is Oft-Forgiving, Most-Merciful. [Sûrah Yûsuf 12:53]
The soul was originally created ignorant and given to transgression. Knowledge, guidance and righteousness are things that befall it due to inspiration from its Lord and then by the struggle against it by its owner and his nurturing it and engaging it in jihâd. Allâh the Exalted says:
And those who strive in Our way We shall guide them to our paths and verily Allâh is with the doers of good (muhsinûn). [Sûrah Ankabût 29:69]
Allâh Azzawajall guaranteed the one whom He found trying and striving (against his soul) that He will be with him, will help him and will bring into reality his wish or desire (of domination over his soul). What then can a man desire after that?
And Ibn al-Qayyim (rh) said: “The travellers to Allâh, in all their different paths and diversity of their ways are agreed that the soul is a barrier between the heart and Allâh and that it (the heart) will not come close to Him, the Sublime, or arrive to Him except after killing his soul, abandoning it by opposing it and being victorious over it”
For this reason, it is obligatory upon us to fight and strive against it in order to travel (by this striving) in the straight path and to the clear success which Allâh Azzawajall has prescribed for us and which the best of the creation of Allâh, Muhammad has explained to us.
Firstly: By holding the soul to account
Secondly: By opposing it and not following its whims and desires
Thirdly: By making it patient in Allâh’s obedience
Fourthly: By making it patient in refraining Allâh’s disobedience
The destruction of the soul and the heart and their corruption is due to the neglect of calling the soul to account. There are very few amongst Allâh’s servants whom you will find calling their souls to account. One will ask it constantly: What did I intend with that word of mine, or that advice I gave, or when I called unto Allâh or when I commanded the good and forbade the evil (on a particular occasion)? Was that word which my tongue engaged upon and which my mouth uttered a word sincerely for Allâh? Did I desire the Face of Allâh with it? Or did I desire a portion of the world with it? What did I desire with that action, whether it was prayer, charity, fasting or putting and end to a certain evil? What did I hope for from it and what was the desire behind it? Did I hope for reward from Allâh for it and His pleasure, or was my hope for reward and praise from Allâh’s creation, showing off and seeking to be heard of?
In such a way does he question his soul and hold it to account for every word, movement and moment of rest. What did I hope for from it? And what did I desire by it? striving-against-the-soul
According to Ibn al-Qayyim, there are five conditions to achieve Istiqamah in performing required deeds:
1. The act should be done for the sake of Allah alone (ikhlas).
2. It should be done on the basis of knowledge ('ilm).
3. Performing ibadah should be in the same manner that they have been commanded.
4. To do it in the best way possible.
5. Restricting oneself to what is lawful while performing those deeds
1- All scholars of Islam agree that pornography is absolutely Haram and a clear sin,Here
Tip #2: Surf the Web or Watch T.V. When Others are Around
"É[Good people are those who] when they have committed a shameful deed (fuhsha) or have harmed themselves, remember God and pray that their sins be forgiven-for who but God could forgive sins?-and do not knowingly persist in doing whatever wrong they may have done." (Quran 3:135).
Allah loves to see us asking for His forgiveness.
If you feel unable to control looking at the screen or the magazine, leave the situation. Get out of the living room, your bedroom where the internet is or where you've been reading the magazine. Take a walk. Just do something to physically get out of the situation.
You cannot assume looking at this stuff is no big deal. Your eyes will testify about what you looked at on the Day of Judgment. God is Most Just and Merciful, and He rewards us for the good and holds us responsible for the bad we do. His angels are around you who love to note down each good dead and hate to watch you do shameful things which they still must report. Every tiny act we do is noted down. May Allah make our accounting on the Day of Judgment easy.
If you are not praying, start now. Salat actively discourages pornography and fornication (fuhsha). Here is what Allah says about it: "É and be constant in prayer: for, behold, prayer restrains man from loathsome deeds and from all that runs counter to decency; and remembrance of God is indeed the greatest [good]. And God knows all that you do." (Quran 29:45)
Haya is a beautiful concept in Islam. Sometimes translated as modesty or shame, there is no one word in English that fully describes what it means. It is a quality in character that makes a believer shine. Satan does not want you to have it. Pornography destroys Haya.
If one of your friends is into pornographic magazines, websites, dirty jokes etc. either help him/her change through gentle and sincere advice (see etiquettes of enjoining the good and forbidding the evil) or abandon frequent contact with them. Their addiction might affect you, so it's best to stay as far away as possible, by remembering the danger to yourself and your relationship with God.
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